So as Tim stated in his post last week… we are touching on some of the pitfalls of the social media driven world. Again, I would like to state that we love social media. In fact, if you are reading this post… it is a form of social media. We looked at the validation search last week and want to take a look at “intimate moments” this week.
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The more I scour the various platforms of social media the more I am confronted with the simple fact of their success. Social media has reached deep into the human psyche and struck a chord for acceptance, and validation. Tim aptly explained that this search for acceptance and validation is because we haven’t found it in our Creator (with whom we have already been accepted and loved). If we don’t seek for it and find it in our Creator we will pursue it elsewhere and always come up empty. However, I wanted to look at not our search for validation but the loss of distinction between public and personal information.
The rest of the world is breaking into our most intimate moments. Walk through a restaurant and notice how many families are not talking but all scrolling through their phones. See how many dates are inundated with pictures/tweets of food, ticket stubs, and selfies. At the next wedding you attend try to count the amount of times someone pulls out their phone to get the next Instagram photo captured for posting. These intimate moments are being destroyed because of our addiction to social media. Family time around the table used to entail discussing the latest news of the day and enjoying time as a family, now it is time to catch up on the world. Dates used to be the method of discovering if the person across the table or next to you at the concert was the person you wanted to spend your life with, now it is the method to gain social popularity. Weddings used to be a celebration of love when we show our support in this beautiful union of two people, now it is the springboard for “likes” and “follows.” I assure you that your family would rather have you present at dinner than see you posted a picture of your plate with the hashtags “#homecooking #loveyoumom #poorcollegekid #nomoreramen.” I promise that your date would rather spend time talking to you and enjoying the date then see some status about how good your seats are or where you are eating. And I can absolutely guarantee that the couple that invited you to their wedding would much rather you enjoy it with your phone in your pocket and your eyes on them. If social fame is what you are after then the sacrifice will be much greater than you want to give. As those precious moments slip by you will wish that you everything back.
Another problem I have been noticing was more apparent than ever last Friday. Yes, February 14th. Better known as Valentine’s Day. Scroll through any social media news feed that day and you will see a bunch of posts that you will wonder why they are online instead of written in some card. Part of it goes back to what Tim wrote last week… we want to be noticed, we want to be validated, and we want to show off our lives. I am thrilled that people love their significant other but those are moments and things that should be shared between those two people only. Stop bringing the world into our private lives! I’ve had to catch myself on multiple occasions from spreading something that was private. From inviting people into my intimate moments that had no business being there. The line has all but been erased between public and private; between universal and intimate.
Push the social media back out of your private life and enjoy those moments. No tweet, vine, post, or picture will ever compare to the quality time spent in the moments you will cherish. Tell your significant other to their face how much they mean to you and it will mean much more than an eloquently worded post. Sit down and discuss life with friends and family around the table and you’ll never miss what the social world is doing around you. Enjoy your life and those you have in it face to face instead of screen to screen.