We all see it. We all know it. How 99% of men view women, and treat them. I was there myself, so I definitely know what goes through guy’s heads in regards to women. Too many times I hear guys say that girls have no respect for themselves, sleep around, cheat, and are too emotionally involved. These are the men I see that just want to “hook up” with girls, Add another notch on their belt. They brag to their friends that they slept with her and move on to the next hot thing that comes their way. These are the same guys I hear cry about not being able to find “wife” material. Funny conundrum isn’t it?
Now I’m not here to sit on a high horse and bash guys as If I’m better. I’m not at all. The only difference is the grace God has shown me and what He taught me about treating his daughters. From the beginning God had a plan of how man and woman should live together. Sadly this vision has been perverted to the extreme. Most men see women as an object for their enjoyment and nothing more. This is why we have millions of men that are slaves to pornography. Any night they choose they can have that “one” for the night and objectify these girls for their desires. You may say, “Kyle, porn is common with men, God can’t expect us to be pure in every aspect of life.” Think again my friend. Jesus has set the bar higher then we can imagine. Matthew 5:27-28, Jesus says “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Wow, Jesus says that looking lustfully is the same as committing adultery. Lets not be foolish and think that God does not care about our purity.
Men, Christian and non-Christian, are missing the mark big time. I work in healthcare, and I hear a lot of interesting conversations. Most men older than myself, will try to give me advice on marriage and kids. When they hear I am single, they say “Your lucky, don’t get married!”, or when I ask them how long they have been married they reply “Too long!” I’ve heard things in past jobs from men about women that I will not write on here. Funny that this has become the norm in our culture. I find it funny how men are becoming defined in this world. Some requirements seem to be: Sleep with many women, have a great body, curse and be funny, bash marriage, get in fights, say all the cool things, be rich, have a nice car, wear the right clothes, listen to the right music, don’t hang out with people who aren’t cool. There is a crazy amount of pressure this day and age when it comes to being a “man”. Being a man starts with God. Our greatest example is in Jesus.
I am not saying for men to be passive. Quite the opposite. Fight for it! (Not throw fists) It’s worth fighting for. It’s worth the sacrifice. Worth giving up your selfish desires. Worth what might disrupt your daily routine. What a beautiful example we can show by loving what the world finds unlovable. What a world it would be if we saw men not rely on their parents for money and a home. If more men taught younger kids and mentored them. If more men showed respect to the godly women and ungodly women. If more men sacrificed their time to serve relentlessly. If more men studied scripture instead of looking at porn. If more men would admit when they were wrong. If more men prayed for those in need. If more men would ask for forgiveness. If more men would control their anger and practice patience. What a world….
We all have a lot of work to do. There are deep scars from sin that are hard to overcome. But God is with us, and it can be done with Him. It’s worth fighting for.